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The text to send when you don't know what to say
You've typed a message to your grieving friend and deleted it twice. Here is the exact text to send instead of staying silent, word for word.
Supporting someoneFive sympathy gifts that last longer than flowers
Flowers die in a week. Five gifts that keep working: four you can set up from your phone tonight, and one that feels awkward and helps the most.
Supporting someoneWeek three is when it gets quiet. Set a reminder now
Everyone shows up the first week after a death. Almost everyone is gone by week three, right when it's needed most. One phone reminder fixes your part.
Your own griefThe five stages of grief were never written for grieving people
Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. That list comes from a 1969 book about something else, and you can stop grading yourself against it.
Your own griefThe waves of grief don't get smaller. They get further apart
Everyone says grief shrinks with time. Then a random Tuesday flattens you two years in and you think you've gone backward. You haven't.
Your own griefNobody warns you about the second year of grief
Everyone checks on you the first year after a death. Then the texts slow down, and for some people that's when it actually gets hard.
A journal with no deadline
111 gentle prompts, dated pages, one thought at a time, built around what the research on writing and grief found. Some pages you'll fill next week. Some in a year. Some never. All of that is the design working.